Emotional Cleansing

A childhood friend working for the government expressed her emotions upon listening to clients report tragedies within their life.  My friend queried Facebook on what she could do to maintain her “professional” composure while managing clients. Cleansing tears I thought this was a great question and felt inclined to reply.

My initial response:

Your healing from past wounds, or blessings of the day, comes through the people you meet. Tears are not always understood but they are very cleansing to the tissues of the
soul. No meeting is by chance. The people you meet are there to give you something as well as you are to provide something. If, every time you meet a client, you say to yourself, “What has this person come to give me?” then you will receive your blessing in whatever shape or form. Remember, we are a mirror reflection of one another. When you can look in the mirror and love what you see, you remain open to the blessings people come to “gift” you. Happy Healing darling! Remain open to your reflection!

Her reply:

Hi honey!! You sorta, kinda, got me understanding….but I’m still a little confused…I have never been good at handling death so I thought this is why I channel with them. But you’re saying that this is a reflection of past wounds?? Enlighten me sista….maybe it will help me.

My Dearest Childhood Friend,

In this lifetime, we move through stages.  Each stage offers a level of pain, growth and love.  Many human beings are taught to suppress emotions created through pain.  For example, I am certain you have overheard many parents say, “Stop crying.”  So, what does one do with those emotions?  Typically, we stuff painful emotions into a box.  We then throw the box into the subconscious corners of our body.  Throughout the years, it is filled with additional pains but remains dormant.  We detach from the disturbing meanings in effort to move on with life.  The pain remains unresolved.  Meanwhile, unbeknownst to your conscious thinking mind, these emotions fester into one, or many, ugly wounds.  The box represents a time bomb awaiting opportunity to communicate.  This bomb can include, but is not limited to:

  1. Anger (bitter)
  2. Substance abuse (alcohol and drugs)
  3. Bodily Pain (Fibromyalgia)
  4. A major ailment (Cancer, Diabetes, Lupus, Hepatitis, Renal Failure or the like) or
  5. Tears

I prefer the communication of tears.  I think they are the easiest to navigate.  Additionally, tears appear in the form of water.  Water is very effective for cleansing the tissues of the soul.

My dearest friend, it is possible you lose composure because the clients you have attracted are helping you gracefully move through your box of repressed emotions to heal thyself.  And you are helping the client through shared expression; gifts are given to the givers – an equal exchange of love.  As a “professional” it may seem untimely but, there is never a better time than the present moment to bless, heal and love.  Those moments are golden opportunities to rid your body of negative emotions, to which you have no conscious-thinking ties, having the ability to create havoc in your life.

Finally, to address your initial question:  How do you maintain composure? It is a process. The summarized steps are as follows:

  • First, allow yourself to acknowledge and express the emotions surfacing from within.  This step helps empty the box and brings you closer to composure.
  • Second, accept your human capacity to express feeling andacknowledge possibility of communicating a repressed emotion to which you disconnected.  For example, maybe a painful experience from a previous relationship.  By doing this, you will move closer to your composure goal.
  • Lastly, as you tread toward an empty box, the emotions are replaced bycompassion for self and the individuals you help to heal.  These actions will help you maintain full composure.  You will have learned how to freely express thyself and healed your subconscious mind in the process.

Like it or not, everyone has a box.  The difference between all of us is honoring our choice to embrace the process of healing past pains so one can step into the excitement of finding and serving life’s purpose.